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In My Mind: Our Generation's Ideal of Beauty


I don't know if this is part of the teenage life, or because looks have become so important to people these past few years, but here's my opinion on the rough and rude judgments that everyone goes through. Before I start, Note: I am a 17-year-old girl who is straight. I know that we aren't the only ones fighting our way through society's judgments, but I will be writing this in my perspective.  From what I extract out of the media and the people around me, this is what fits the ideal of beauty of most people right nowbig boobs, a big butt, thick thighs, a small waist, long hair, and a near-perfect symmetric face. Most of the mainstream music nowadays talk about girls like that and showcase girls like that, and I just think "Yeah so, what about the girls who don't have those physical features?" "Are we not wanted?" could go on with the negative thoughts, but most of the time, I don't.

Oh, and what you wear as well. The more you show, the more attractive you are. There are people out there who wouldn't try getting to know you as a person because once they see you, they've already placed a judgement on you. That sucks. It's pretty funny & messed up because they think they know you by one look of what you're wearing, but they've really just created this short summary of who you present yourself to be to them. Like "hey, um excuse yourself, because you haven't even met me??"

I think that as long as you're doing something for yourself and you're happy, then present yourself in what ever way you want. If you're presenting yourself for the sake of attention from others, then you're just letting those people rule your life. That's right, YOUr life. Hey, I've been there, we've all been there. Some of us are even at that point right now, where we would wear certain things in order to gain compliments that would make us feel good.. you know what I'm talking about. But you know what's better than living for others to hear nice things? Choosing to live for ourselves and hearing nice genuine things because of that.

Now don't go on thinking that looks don't matter at all because they do. There are tons of people and articles out there that say it's the inside that counts & not the outside, when the outside in fact does count. So please, don't give me that talk, because we all know that looks are what attracts you to meet someone or to choose someone over another, for what ever reason. Looks overrule and it's just the harsh reality. I'm not writing this to say that looks don't matter, I'm writing this to say that looks do matter, but not to the point where it overshadows ones character within. 

Like fashion, the image of a beautiful and/or perfect person is constantly changing. Remember when everyone wanted a thigh gap? That was only one or two years ago, and now look at the many people who want to be "thick", look how many guys are attracted to "thick" girls. There are literally body trendsSick world we live in, right? BODY TRENDS. Honestly, don't even listen & surround yourself by social media and society, life is much better without the negativity, the perfect this, perfect that. Life is better when you rule your own life, and don't let judgments rule you. One last note I'd like to add is that I am not discriminating against any type of body, I am opposed to the fact that they become trends, because we all know that all bodies are not the same.

I absolutely hate how our generation focuses a ton on the importance of outer beauty; what ever that beauty is supposed to look like. There are so many people around the world; friends, family, and strangers (hey, HONY) feeling insecure because they did not fit the physical aspects of a beautiful person and it makes me very sad.

Don't judge someone based on their looks. Like actually, don't. People can wear whatever they want, but just because they wear certain things does not mean it relates to how they actually are as people.

Take care, friends



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