just tryna live my life & be the best I can be

livin'lin

An 18-year-old girl with with a mind full of dreams, thoughts and loves.

The Importance of Alone Time & Independence

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Do you ever wonder why when you're just not feeling it, you want to be left alone? Well, based off of my own experience, it's because you NEED that alone time. You need to know how it feels like to be alone; how you can handle yourself, which is already a very big job. In fact, we're the ones who are the harshest to ourselves. Imagine beating that bad part of you. The feeling of independence is a treat to me and it feels so accomplishing to not be dependent on others for what ever the reason. For some people, being alone scares them; they need people to tell them what they want to hear, what they  expect to hear, and they need that kind of comfort.. which is totally fine as well, I mean, this is my experience, but that's personally not my thing! For others, such as myself, spending time alone becomes one of the best days ever; no one to pay attention to either than myself, no one annoyed by me stopping every second to take photos, no one having to deal with me staying in a store for too long, no feeling guilty of dragging along a nice friend who goes along with everything (when deep down inside, they want to leave you), etc. Whenever I'm alone, I have time to reevaluate myself, let myself grow, rebuild my soul. and just enjoy being free and spontaneous.

You are your own teacher. Investigate yourself to find the truth – inside, not outside. Knowing yourself is most important. - Ajahn Chah

No one knows you better than yourself. Alone time enhances my confidence, my self-worth, and my self-love. It becomes much harder for me to be hurt by others because of the time I spend with myself since I know what kind of person I really am and I know my own intentions! Being alone gives you a chance to go over your personal opinions and beliefs; to gain more knowledge in them and to rethink the things you could have done better. You learn how to think for yourself and not to be influenced by the decisions of others. You are the controller of your life, do you, and be the best person you can be!

"For what it's worth; it's never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over again." - F. Scott Fitzgerald

I'm actually having some trouble trying to describe how amazing it feels to be so sure of yourself and to go on solo adventures. By the way, I live for solo adventures. However, it's just something you just have to try for yourself, because I'm sure everyone will have their own different experiences. When I spend time with myself, I not only reevaluate who I am and practice self-actualization, but also, what I want to improve on and accomplish. I think about my future A LOT. I always create goals, big or small, that I can work up to. I think about the future I want to have and the future of my inner self, the person I want to be more of.

"I can't emphasize enough the importance of solo adventures. Everything from eating lunch by yourself to strolling in the park all help your sense of independence. If you're never by yourself, how will you ever know yourself." - Unknown

To finish this off, listen, I know it may be scary or even embarrassing to go out alone, but it's so important and I would say that it is a necessity to spend time alone from time to time. You can't always depend on others to tell you who you are, because to every person you know, you are someone different to them. So with all of these different classifications of you, who are you really if you base your persona on the words of others? Sometimes, you can't find anyone to go see that new movie with you, sometimes you just have no choice but to go out and do something yourself.. so just do it! You honestly never know when a person can screw you over. One day, a friend can say "You're so wonderful and genuine!" and then something can come up and that same person could say "Yeah, you know what, you're actually so fake and I'm glad this made me realize how horrible you actually are." ..or something like that, haha.

My point is, once you know yourself, you feel invincible. You're on your own level, on your own path. Even when people try to break you down, you know that you're amazing and that those people aren't worth your time! After going on these solo adventures for a year or so, I've gotten to this point where I naturally tell myself I'm amazing and I'm doing the best I can right now. even when it feels like everyone is judging me. In my life, I don't depend on anyone but myself and God. Go out and get on that level. Plan days for yourself. Challenge yourself and be independent. Learn to love your own company! I promise that you won't regret it; it'll only do you good. When the time comes, you'll start attracting the right people, don't worry about being alone forever. There are people out there waiting to be appreciated and there are people out there just waiting for their time to appreciate you.

One last inspirational quote...

"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers." - Veronica A. Shoffstall

Much love,

Lindsey